An Expanded Love


This is the blog for my polyamorous romantic novel, An Expanded Love. Polyamory is consensual non-monogamy, or simply put: loving more than one person at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. You can buy An Expanded Love on Lulu or Amazon or Smashwords, in print and as an e-book. *

20th March 2011

The introduction I never wrote for An Expanded Love

Introduction

Imagine a world where nobody cheats on their partners, where nobody has to hide their lovers.  Imagine loving multiple people, and being happy when your partner finds someone new.  Welcome to Polyamory. 

When I started writing An Expanded Love, I was in the process of breaking up with one of my girlfriends.  I was also facing surgery, and a long and difficult winter. Being polyamorous does not preclude me from heartache, jealousy or that sometimes I’ll feel totally alone.  But like the characters in this book, I learned to deal with it and move forwards in time. It wasn’t easy to write under these circumstances, but I like to think that this labour of love was worth it in the end.

It took me almost nine months to write this book, and in that time, both my characters and I have grown and changed.  The fictional people whose details I first scribbled down on bits of paper are part of my consciousness now.  With every Pagan festival that passes, I think of Yolanda and Sam.  When I travel by train on the Northeast coast of England, I think of Lex playing a flute on the beach at Lindisfarne.  I see my heroine, Nadia in so many places, and ultimately I see her reflected in myself.  For polyamorous people, seeing ourselves reflected in any work of fiction is rare indeed.

I didn’t want to write a book that promotes all the wonderful highlights of being polyamorous, without mentioning the not-great stuff too.  Even though people don’t have to lie, they still do.  There’s no need for jealousy, but my characters feel it anyway.  Drama usually means a conflict, and there is plenty of conflict within these pages.  There are other things contained in this book: new ways of expressing affection, how to form connections when your lover lives on an island in the North Sea, and how to buy the best lube for that hot date.

It is my hope that this book entertains you; that it makes you think about a whole new world.  Because by just reading this far, you’ve proved that you are open to new possibilities.  Welcome to the polyamorous world.  You’re already living in it. 

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